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How do you like this idea – to go to a BDSM club party?

Some will say, “She’s awful!”

Others will ask: “Are there really such?”,

still others will express their fears: “Perverts will gather there too!” or “I’m afraid they will do something to me there.”

And only probably a very small part of the audience will find this idea interesting.

We hope that after reading this article, most will perceive the opportunity to attend a BDSM meeting or a club party positively and can easily translate it into reality with due interest.

In general, many of us love to spend time in clubs. And for sure, most have at least a few times, but have been to them, even if they are not very attracted to the party style of life. We mean places where you can play billiards, bowling, dance, chat, meet pretty people of the opposite sex, just sit and have a tasty meal.

With the development of the Internet since 2000. BDSM in Russia began to come out of the underground, uniting people who were keen on the topic and, to one degree or another, propagandize it both among interested people and among newcomers who are trying to find themselves. Almost every region of Russia has its own thematic clubs that hold BDSM parties with varying degrees of regularity. There are several such clubs in large cities, Moscow and St. Petersburg. All of them are large and parties of various formats are held almost weekly. Similar events can take place in modes

open (everyone is invited),

closed (only club members come)

But the stereotypes are such that many people think that it is extremely dangerous for ordinary visitors to appear in BDSM clubs, because perverts gather there, they arrange orgies, that there you can fall into the hands of inveterate sadists who will tie you to a pole and whip you or torture you with a hot one iron. All this is nothing more than your playing imagination. Don’t trust him. Even if you want everything to be exactly like this 🙂

Debunking stereotypes about BDSM meetings

Calling all BDSM people perverts is wrong. There are no more of them than in any randomly chosen group of people. We wrote about this in the articles Sexual Perversion and The Whole Truth About BDSM Relationships .

There are no orgies at parties. People gather to socialize, eat, drink, relax, change their surroundings and relax. Dancing is usually not provided, although so-called BDSM balls are held, where dances are present in demonstration performances of participants, and a dress code is also welcomed. The highlight of the party are theatrical performances with elements of action (thematic sessions) and eroticism.

All people who participate in the performance directly plan their participation in it and prepare in advance. No one will attract a person from the audience to demonstrate Thematic Practices on it, or vice versa, shoving a whip into his hand with the words “Show me how you do it.” Nevertheless, as in strip shows, the hosts in the rooms can ask the audience if someone wants to participate in the number. Usually these are numbers in which, in any case, there is no risk, both for a person from the audience and for those on stage.

In general, as far as we know, there are no real establishments that would bear the name “BDSM club”. Usually thematic BDSM meetings are held in cafes, clubs, restaurants, with the administration of which the initiative group of the club agrees and removes it for a certain time. In summer, there are nature trips. Everyone is often invited to such events. There are also specially equipped studios designed specifically for thematic sessions. However, these are small rooms and they cannot accommodate many people. It can also be an apartment or a house, but such options are already for those who know each other more or less from club parties. If you are new, then most likely you will not be invited there. At such meetings, there are strict rules of conduct, with which visitors are introduced in advance. However, this rigidity is aimed primarily at ensuring that “no animal is harmed.”

Nevertheless, BDSM party is not an action for the faint of heart: there you can see half-naked women and men who are beaten with a whip right on the stage, people in collars and on a leash, women in latex dresses … topic. But you also need to be prepared for the fact that in films and in photos it all looks more beautiful than in real life.

How to get to a BDSM party

It is not so difficult. Usually announcements of such events are posted on the BDSM club forums . Find such an announcement, specify the place where the event will take place, read what it will be like, the conditions under which you can get there. If you have any questions – register on this forum and ask them to the author of the topic, or directly communicating with the crowd on the forum in the form of messages under an open topic about the meeting. Please note that in other topics you can find reviews of already held parties, which also contain photos from events. This will help you create the right impression of what you are about to face.

Dress code

As for the dress code … you can’t go wrong if you dress like you would in a regular club. Some parties also take place in costume. In this case, you may well be there as a beautiful stranger or Mr. X simply by buying yourself an eye mask. In any case, if any dress requirements are imposed on the guests of the party, they are usually specified in the annotation for the event. In addition, part of the thematic community adheres to the following “by default” preferences in colors and clothes . By dressing according to the recommendations of this article, you can attract the attention of people with certain interests.

Themed party etiquette

There is also the so-called etiquette of behavior, which must be followed, and which is somewhat different from the etiquette that is considered to be the rules of good taste in ordinary society. These rules apply to both private closed parties and public events. Of course, there may be exceptions, but the main ones are universal and should be followed by beginners. In addition, once in such a community, observe how people communicate with each other or with some group of people, most likely you will see confirmation of the fundamental points given here.

So, the basic rules of a BDSM meeting

1. Do not touch anyone without permission, as people usually do during communication, for example, take the interlocutor’s hand or fiddle with a button on his clothes. Touching without permission in the BDSM community is considered a violation of decency and even a boorish attitude. Of course, you can shake hands when meeting.

2. If at the party there is something like an exhibition of devices or someone present demonstrates their devices and paraphernalia, and you want to turn it all over in your hands – also be sure to ask permission to do so. Usually you can hold everything in your hands.

3. During the performance, be as quiet as in the theater. It is even advisable to turn off your mobile phone. its sound completely kills that special mood created by people on stage. If you want to immediately discuss what is happening, leave the room and do it outside, so as not to disturb not only the speakers, but also the audience, who will be distracted by even your whisper.

4. During the staged action, try to clear some space around so that the Top has a “place to work”. If the Top one asks you about it – fulfill his request. Otherwise, you will not only interfere with the action, just “standing in the frame”, but also run the risk of being hit with a whip, because the person conducting the session is obliged to take care only of his bottom, but not about you.

5. Be polite, restrained and correct in your assessments of what is happening, even if something shocks you, behave calmly and with dignity. You should remember about the basic principles of BDSM and that everything that happens around is built on their basis and relates to what is happening with the due degree of tolerance. If you are fundamentally not happy or afraid of what is happening, just leave the party.

6. Do not try to enter into a dialogue with those who directly participate in the thematic session in order to find out any details at the time of its holding. Remember that during the breaks that the Top can take during the session in order to take a break, change device or influence, does not mean that the show is over. A kind of continuation of the session can be the moments when partners just talk to each other after the end of the action. It is possible that the lower one is experiencing subspace right now . This is also not the best time to interfere with their relationship with your questions. Show a little endurance and patience – you will have more time to talk about what you liked, excited or repulsed.

7. Before going to a BDSM party, try to get a little grounded on the topic, so as not to be a black sheep and not pester everyone with naive childish questions, such as “What is a topic?” This can be helped by our site, as well as by such a section of it as a dictionary of thematic terms , so that you understand a little what people around you are talking about. On the other hand, polite and tactful inquiries about certain practices are welcome, but not during their demonstration!

8. Remember that meetings are usually not alcohol-free. Nobody will forbid you a glass of wine or beer, but you should not come to a BDSM meeting frankly drunk or get drunk during it.

9. Be aware that at parties “by default” photography and video filming are prohibited, unless otherwise specified.

10. It will be much easier for you to get comfortable if you are not alone at the meeting, but for example with someone with whom you have closely communicated on the topic before on the forum or on a social network, provided that he knows most of the participants.

11. On the websites of clubs there are usually detailed rules for holding such events – read them.

12. Do not forget after the end to thank the hosts and settle accounts with them if during the meeting some refreshments were offered, and the financial issue was not discussed in advance.

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